Best Places to Find Gender Neutral Wedding Outfits in NYC

Let’s get one thing straight: you can wear whatever the fuck you want to your wedding.

Tulle or tweed. A three-piece suit with a corset top. A silk gown with combat boots. Nothing should feel off-limits just because it doesn’t check the “bride” or “groom” box.

If the wedding industry still hasn’t caught up to the reality that gender is not a dress code, that’s not your problem. That’s their lack of imagination.

Luckily, NYC is stacked with designers and shops who do get it—folks who aren’t trying to force your body into a binary, but instead create art that fits who you are. Whether you’re after a tailored suit, a dramatic gown, or something that doesn’t even fit those categories, here are some of the best places in NYC to find gender neutral wedding outfits.

Watson Ellis

Custom suiting for women, non-binary folks, and anyone who’s ever felt overlooked at a traditional tailor.

Watson Ellis makes some of the best suits in the city, full stop. Designed by and for people who don’t see themselves in the men’s department—or the women’s, for that matter. The attention to fit is chef’s kiss, and their approach is all about celebrating who you are without compromise. 

Bindle & Keep

Luxurious custom suits for all genders, all bodies, all vibes.

Bindle & Keep’s Brooklyn studio is a haven for anyone looking to create something bespoke and bold. You’ve probably seen their work on red carpets or queer fashion features, and for good reason… their suits are just that good. 

Loulette Bride

Brooklyn-based bridalwear that’s romantic and rebellious.

Loulette is all about inclusive sizing, diverse representation, and de-gendering the bridal experience. Their gowns are dreamy made with delicate fabrics, modern silhouettes, and zero pressure to be anything but yourself. Plus, for every gown sold, they plant a tree, which is a nice touch!

The Tailory NYC

Tailored suits, statement pieces, and bold fashion for all.

The Tailory merges bespoke suiting with high fashion. Their pieces lean into dramatic draping, modern structure, and androgynous elegance. They work with clients of all gender identities, and the vibe is very much: powerful, polished, and ready to slay your wedding day.

Kirrin Finch

Brooklyn-based brand making suiting actually made for women, trans, and nonbinary bodies.

Kirrin Finch said “what if masculine styles didn’t mean squeezing into something built for a different body?” and then did something about it. Okay, this is NOT a direct quote, but that’s essentially what the brand is all about. Their pieces are built from scratch and not simply adapted from menswear patterns. And the difference shows! Sharp, clean lines, no weird shoulder pads, and fabrics that feel good.

Christian Siriano

High fashion. Couture. Gender? Optional.

Christian Siriano is a whole moment. He’s dressed Billy Porter, Sam Smith, and a host of nonbinary celebs in gowns that shatter every rule the fashion industry tries to enforce. While his pieces are high-end couture and not wedding-shop-ready, if you want something extra and have the budget to match, this is the place to dream big.

Queera Wang

The name alone deserves a standing ovation.

Queera Wang is a queer-owned brand making gender-neutral formalwear that’s sharp, artistic, and unapologetic. While they don’t currently have actual retailers, their designs are pure inspiration if you’re looking to shake off every last drop of bridal/suit binary energy.

Honorable Mentions: Gender Neutral Wedding Outfits Outside of NYC

Your dream outfit may or may not be local, so here are a few honorable mentions across the country.

Sharpe Suiting (LA) – Red carpet-worthy custom suits for all genders and all bodies. They have an amazing selection of colors and fabrics, plus, being LA-based, they may or may not have dressed someone you know.

House of Breton (Indiana) – All-custom, all-genders. They are the epitome of throw-out-the-playbook-and-do-whatever-you-want for your wedding attire.

Wildfang (PDX) – Gender-neutral jumpsuits, suits, and separates in wild colors and bold prints.

Addicted Bespoken – Amazing handmade, made-to-measure embroidered suiting, that is, of course, gender-inclusive. While they do a lot of colorful and bright western style attire, they do custom work fitting your style, as well!

Duchess Clothier (Oregon) – Timeless gender-inclusive suits made for expression, not assimilation.

Queer Wedding Fashion Is Elite

Your wedding day isn’t about following the rules. It’s about showing up as your fullest, fiercest self. And that includes your outfit.

Whether that means a black velvet tux, a gold sequined cape, a gown with pockets, or something the wedding industrial complex hasn’t even dreamed up yet—you deserve to feel fucking phenomenal.

Ready to Break the Mold and Document Your Day Without the Gender Binary Bullshit?

I’m Caroline—a queer NYC-based photographer who captures weddings that feel like you. 

👉 Reach out to start planning your wedding day.

And if you liked this blog, you’ll also love my Queer Photographer's Guide to Planning Your Wedding (Without All the Gendered Bullshit).